Are you confused about whether you’re working the right job or not? Or maybe you aren’t sure if you should take the leap and see if there is something else out there?
If that sounds like you, here are 5 ways to know it’s time to throw up the deuces and peace out from your current work situation.
(1) You Wake Up Already Over The Day
At one of my previous jobs, though I loved it at first, it started to wear on me after a few years. I would wake up already exhausted, already miserable, and just plain over it.
And when that’s your mindset from the moment you wake up, your day’s not going to get much better.
Being in this type of headspace doesn’t just affect your work, it affects everyone around you. Whether you’re married, living with a partner, or living that roomie life, all of them will feel the strain of your misery. In fact, you don’t even have to live with people for them to feel your pain – friends and family outside of your home can feel it too.
Last year during this time, I was waking up so over it already that it showed in my attitude towards everything else. I was usually either angry or a bitch to be around.
Now that I love my job, it also shows up in my relationships. I’m smiling, I laugh more, and I have fun.
So if you’re already over life from the minute you wake up, it’s time to look for a new job.
(2) When You See Your Boss’ Number Calling Or Hear His/Her Voice, You Cringe
Do you have a visceral reaction when your boss calls you? Does your stomach clench the minute you hear their voice?
That, my friends, is proof it’s time for a new job.
You should actually enjoy speaking to your boss. I’m not saying you have to be BFF (although, if you want to be, that’s awesome for ya’ll).
But you shouldn’t dread every instance of contact you have with them either.
Your boss is one of your key advocates. Whether you want to move up or move on from your job, your boss is the one that can offer recommendations or have your back in suggesting you for a higher position.
If you and your boss either don’t get along, or you just cringe or crumble under their leadership style – then it’s time for you to get a new job.
(3) You Feel Anxious and/or Depressed
This is seriously one of the most important reasons to get a new job. If your current one is affecting your mental health, you must get out of there.
As mentioned in number 1, your disposition has an impact on all those around you. If you’re depressed, that will affect your marriage, relationship, friendships, and family.
Now I’m not saying that anxiety at your job is a bad thing – but only if it’s occurring before something like a major presentation or a big event. We will all feel at least a twinge of anxiety during that type of situation.
But if you are thrumming with anxiety from the moment you get to work to the moment you leave, then yes, it’s time to get out.
And constant depression and/or anxiety can lead to major health issues. It not only weakens your immune system, making you’re more susceptible to colds, but studies (including one from Harvard Medical School) have shown that anxiety over the long-term can lead to:
- Vaccines being less effective
- Development of irritable bowel syndrome (including chronic vomiting, diarrhea, or constipation)
- Loss of appetite
- Lack of interest in sex
- Chronic fatigue brought on by muscle tension, headaches, and insomnia
- Increased risk of diabetes, high blood pressure, and heart disease.
None of those sound like fun. So if you’re feeling anxious or depressed constantly at your job, it’s absolutely time to move on.
(4) You’re Underemployed
This one could also be called, “You’re bored as fuck.”
There are all days that we have where we’re just not into work, or we’re feeling out of sorts or bored. But if you are feeling this way on a regular basis, you need to recognize it as a sign to get out.
Maybe you took the job because you needed to make ends meet at the time, and you’ve just stayed with it.
Maybe you felt like you couldn’t get anything else.
Maybe you thought you wanted to do this, but you’ve changed your mind.
Or maybe there are power dynamics at play, keeping you from reaching your potential.
If you’ve tried to deal with this by taking on extra assignments or asking for a transfer to a new area, to no avail, then you need to change jobs.
Everyone has a unique skill set that qualifies them to SLAY at their right job.
If your current position isn’t utilizing that, and you’ve tried to change it from within without success, then you should look at putting in your two weeks notice.
(5) You’re Underpaid
This one is a bit more nuanced, but it’s equally as important.
Perhaps you’re underpaid because you started at one salary, with promises of a raise that hasn’t materialized.
Or maybe you had a coworker leave, and you’re doing double duty for the same salary.
Despite the reason behind it, if you are consistently being underpaid for the amount of work that you’re doing, you need to step up and use your voice.
Go to your boss and explain the situation to them calmly and rationally. Tally the extra hours, or the lack of a promised raise, or the average salary of that same position with your same skill set in the area.
If that conversation yields results, then great! But if it feels like running repeatedly into a brick wall, then you need to find a way out.
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No matter what your parents, relatives, or anyone else says – no, you do not need to just “deal with it” until things “get better.”
Chances are, they won’t and you’ll still be miserable.
You have one life. You get to choose how you live it.
Back in the day, people were rewarded for sticking around and dealing with the drudgery. But that’s no longer the case.
You need to take care of yourself. Make yourself happy. Yes, you also need a roof over your head and food to eat, but that doesn’t mean you have to sell your soul to accomplish it.
You might get a lot of flak from people who call you flighty, or demanding, or wanting something that doesn’t exist. They may call you selfish or act appalled that you quit a “perfectly good job” to follow your dream.
Ignore them. Chances are, deep down they are jealous that you took the leap when they never did.
You focus on taking care of you, and if the drama gets to be too much, I’m always here for you!
Let me know what your dream job is in the comments! I’d love to hear it!
P.S. Here’s a little cheatsheet for you to download if you need some reminders!